Kansas city chiefs Kicker Harrison Butker defends ‘freedom of speech’

Ivy Van Dusen says many stay-at-home mothers are misunderstood, ridiculed: ‘They think that we’re just dumb’

A popular Arizona online influencer believes stay-at-home mothers are often derided in today’s social-media-fixated, me-first culture. So when NFL kicker Harrison Butker’s viral commencement address praising homemaking as one of the most important vocations for women caused an uproar, she wasn’t surprised.

“I think a lot of people have just been trained, and I was kind of like this too, even growing up, hearing about how important it is for women to have degrees and to have jobs and go compete with men,” 28-year-old Ivy Van Dusen and “trad wife” told Fox News Digital. “So I think people subconsciously when they hear the word homemaker, or when they hear someone, especially a man, talk about women being mothers, flags go up, and they automatically are upset by it.”

Van Dusen makes videos on social media sharing about her life as a homemaker and stay-at-home mom of two children. On her TikTok account, @ivyoutwest, the young mother shares with her 100,000+ followers why she finds her traditional lifestyle more fulfilling than pursuing a career in the corporate world.

“I genuinely think that they think that we’re just dumb, and we don’t understand that it’s oppressive to be at home and to depend on a man financially and that we should be doing so much more,” she said. “I think that’s just a misconception, because a lot of stay-at-home moms I know are educated, have had careers … We do it consciously, knowing that it’s a lifestyle that’s worth it for us.”

Butker’s May 11 address at Benedictine College, a small Catholic college in Kansas, has generated considerable debate, support and backlash around the country. Media coverage, which has been largely negative, has focused particularly on his remarks addressed to women graduating that day and how they’d been told “diabolical lies.”

“Some of you may go on to lead successful careers in the world, but I would venture to guess that the majority of you are most excited about your marriage and the children you will bring into this world. I can tell you that my beautiful wife Isabelle would be the first to say that her life truly started when she began living her vocation as a wife and as a mother,” he said.

“I’m on this stage today and able to be the man I am because I have a wife who leans into her vocation. I’m beyond blessed with the many talents God has given me. But it cannot be overstated, that all of my success is made possible because a girl I met in band class back in middle school would convert to the faith, become my wife and embrace one of the most important titles of all: homemaker.”

Everything from Butker’s observance of the Traditional Latin Mass – one “View” co-host called it “cult-like” – to his position – a Washington Post sports columnist suggested mocking him for being the Kansas City Chiefs placekicker – has come under fire from the left.

A CNN reporter even asked Biden press secretary Karine Jean-Pierre if Butker would be welcome at the White House when the Chiefs came later this year to celebrate their Super Bowl title; she replied the whole team was invited.

The NFL officially distanced itself from him, saying Butker’s remarks clashed with the league’s on “inclusion.” Even usually chipper NBC host Hoda Kotb said the speech put her in a bad mood last week on “Today with Hoda & Jenna.”

“Don’t speak for us,” Kotb said. “Stop speaking for women out there.”

But many other women, with college degrees, are backing Butker’s remarks.

Van Dusen, who was raised in a Mormon family, said she felt pressured by society to pursue a degree, and go compete with men” in the workforce. While attending Brigham Young University, she met her husband and got married at 19. The couple welcomed their first child just after Van Dusen graduated with her degree in broadcast journalism.

While she loved journalism and wanted to pursue a career in it, she felt it was more important for her to stay home with her son, especially while he was young.

“My husband was really supportive in that,” she told Fox News Digital.

But it hasn’t always been easy.

“We have had to be extremely frugal, especially those first years … but it’s been good,” she said.

Besides making videos on social media about her family and lifestyle, she is passionate about helping to support other mothers through her blog and her volunteer work with Postpartum Support International. She also competes in beauty pageants and was the 2023 winner of the Mrs. Arizona America pageant for married women, which is the official state preliminary for the Mrs. America Pageant.

Happy about her decision to be a homemaker, Van Dusen works to support other moms regardless of their educational background.